Dear Blake,
I met a senior gentleman (my age) on a dating site. I thought our first date was pretty successful. After dinner, he asked me if I wanted to go and watch some fireworks, so I saw some potential in that. We laughed, communicated well and agreed we had lots to share.
I assumed a text or phone call would be forthcoming. Am I too old school in thinking the man makes the first move? Well, he finally called — four days later — but only to say he isn’t looking for a serious relationship, but would like to see me occasionally. Does that mean I must sit around and wait for the occasion? I am not sure what “occasionally” means these days.
Signed, Barbara
From Little Rock, Arkansas
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Dear Barbara,
I think it’s great that you found a man that really has your attention. But if you want to continue seeing him, you must be more aggressive before he becomes too rickety to get around on his own. Here are some ideas. Invite him to a party where he will feel comfortable dancing. If he does that enough, he’ll probably need a hip replacement and will need you take care of him and his brittle antiquated bones. If he gets dementia, that may work to your advantage, because he’ll be excited about his perpetual “first dates”. As seniors, your both on borrowed time, so you must accelerate the relationship while he’s wearing boxers and briefs… instead of Depends. And lastly, if the idea of a wedding is your ultimate goal, then try this. Have someone dress up as the grim reaper, warning him that if he doesn’t get married within ten days, his time is up. If you do marry him shortly after that, try to be a good wife, because if you don’t, he might regret not accepting the grim reaper’s other option. I hope this helps.
Blake