Dear Blake,
When my boyfriend talks about women, he doesn’t always refer to them by their name. In most cases, I don’t know the individual. But even if he does refer to her by name, what bothers me is he always follows it by describing her boobs (i.e., “the one with the big boobs, she has got to be at least a 42D, they stick straight out,” or, “she’s petite with a very small waistline”). Yet, he says he loves my figure and always expresses he loves the way I’m built.
I have ignored the “big boob” comments because (I’m guessing) he gets some kind of satisfaction from making them, so I have gone along with it. However, it is becoming increasingly annoying. How can I get him to stop these comments and either refer to the women by name, or “Jerry’s wife,” “the woman” or “the lady”?
Signed, Daphne
From Albany, New York
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Dear Daphne,
I think most women would be bothered by your boyfriend’s irritating habit. To stop him from doing that, start talking about men in a similar way but on steroids, that’ll really get his attention. Here are some suggestions. Refer to one his friends as “the guy with the cute butt” that you try to inconspicuously pat every chance you get. Or, refer to a mutual male friend that most women would consider attractive, and refer to him as your “ongoing sun bursting fantasy”. Or this idea. Refer to one of your male co-worker as “the guy that rarely wears underwear”. If those don’t get his attention, this last one will. Refer to a nearby male neighbor, as “the cheapskate that never paid for any of your pregnancy tests”. I hope this helps.
Blake