Dear Blake,

I like this guy at work. I think he’s cute, but I don’t know if he’s interested. I also don’t know if there’s a chance he would ask me out. I’m scared I might be considered a “cougar.” I am older than he is by five (or more) years. Please advise.

Signed, Lilian
From Minot, North Dakota

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Dear Lilian,

If you work in an office long enough, either you’ll experience or observe an office romance. This guy you like is either not interested in you, or he thinks you’re just a little to ancient for his taste. Here are some of my other thoughts. Take every opportunity to be in his presence, with the hope that he’ll be like most guys, and fulfill his fantasy of being involved with an old bat. If he’s interested, you’ll be a pushover, because younger guys are very good at financially and emotionally draining sex starved cougars. If he’s not interested, it might be your appearance. Do you dress really nice in the office, or more like a big city bag lady? And lastly, if your co-workers think you’re a cougar, so what! Just tell them you’re trying to relive the enjoyable years from your past, when you really were content being sordid and sleazy. I hope this helps.

Blake