Dear Blake,
I’ve been seeing “Ronald” for a little more than a year. He’s nine years older than I am, and we don’t really have a lot in common. He has feelings for me, but I don’t feel the same toward him. He has helped me out a lot financially, and doesn’t expect me to pay him back.
The problem is, I have met someone else. “Frank” and I have so much in common. We knew a lot of the same people when we were younger. He recognized me after I showed him a picture from my younger days. We both have feelings for each other. He’s a year younger than I am. I just don’t know what to do. Please help.
Signed, Cynthia
From Eugene, Oregon
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Dear Cynthia,
You seem to be torn in two directions. You have to be make a decision, and hope that which ever guy gets rejected, doesn’t have a Jack the Ripper side that he’s been hiding, but as a precaution, update your living will. Here are some other suggestions. Tell Ronald that due to the fact that he’s nine years older, his appearance suggests to you that he won’t age well and you prefer not to be around him once he begins looking frightening. Or, you can tell Ronald, that because he has pampered you so much, you’ve become entitled and selfish. And you’re currently so emotionally damaged, that he’s lucky you haven’t sued him for the years of therapy you’ll need cause be his reckless handouts. Or this idea. Explain to him that you two have nothing in common, that the only way you will continue seeing him, is if he immediately starts doing everything you tell him… through telepathy. And lastly, this idea. Put both men in the same room and have them bid on you. If one of them tosses you their car keys and car title, then the other one has to toss his car key, car title, and a tank full of gas. If one of them goes to an ATM and gives you $5000.00, then the other one has to give you $6000.00 etc. After the bidding is over, keep everything they’ve given you, dump both men, and explain to them that you prefer not to be involved with anyone who is that desperate to be in a relationship. I hope this helps.
Blake