Dear Blake,
Am I obligated to give people a free ride just because I am going to the same place or in the same direction? Too often people who barely speak to us suddenly remember we exist when they want something, especially if they or their child needs a ride somewhere.
Sometimes, they give lame excuses like, “Oh. I’m almost out of gas.” Other times it’s that they have chosen to do something else — like go to a party — instead of picking up their child. I don’t mind helping occasionally, but it’s to the point where I feel these people know they can do whatever else they wish because they know I’ll pick up the slack. I’m tired of being the chauffeur. I don’t want to make waves, but how can I say no?
Signed, Alvin
From Chicago, Illinois
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Dear Alvin,
I can feel your frustration regarding those insensitive leeches. The only thing I can think, is for you come up with a reason or reasons, that will make them extremely unlikely that they’ll suggest a ride along with you, even if they have to get rushed to a hospital. Here are some ideas. Have your phone number leave a message that if anyone needs a ride, to leave their name and number after they have used cash app to pay your service, and you only return calls, after the money is in your account. Or, tell them that you need some new tires, and anyone who wants a ride, should meet you at Goodyear or Firestone… with a credit card. Or this idea. Try to sound completely drunk when they call, and tell them you’re afraid to get your fourth DUI. And this last suggestion. Tell them you got into a heated discussion with the leader of a violent gang, and he has threatened to blow you away while you’re driving… along will all of the passengers/witnesses. And to perpetuate the lie, constantly ask them for a loan so you can buy some bullet proof windows. I hope this helps.
Blake