Dear Blake,

I ran into my ex-boyfriend today who is very successful. He and I went out a couple of years ago and now he’s married. His wife is a very sweet, nice person. But the problem is, I saw him with another woman in a store, and they were buying lingerie for her! What should I do in this sticky situation: call the guy out? Or just keep my mouth shut?

Signed, J

From Los Angles, California

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Dear J,

I get asked that question often, and my answer is simple. Do you want to financially profit from his indiscretion? And if “yes”, how much? Keep in mind, the more he loves his wife, the easier it’ll be for you to implement any level of extortion. This is an opportunity for you to benefit from his success, because you can now go on vacations, or have your house refurnished for free! Or you can be more practical by having him start your children’s college fund… before they are even born. You should also immediately demand an extra set of his car keys and a gas card, so your own car doesn’t have to endure any wear and tear during the summer months as fuel prices begin to rise. And here is my final piece of advice, plus a warning: always trust your instincts. If you ever have a feeling that he has become so insensitive and has so little value for human life, that you believe that he placed a bomb in his car right before you get in, don’t get angry with him. Just show him that you are the bigger person by taking the high road, and then persuade his mistress into getting in and starting it first. I hope this helps.

Blake