Dear Blake
My wife and I have been married for 45 years. When she moved out of our bedroom, I was shocked. I thought she didn’t love me anymore. Then I realized that both our sleeping habits have changed over the years. She snores, and I toss and turn. She needs the room dark, while I like a night light so I can see while I walk to the bathroom. We still love each other, but just sleep in different rooms. Is this normal?
Signed, Charlie
From Boise, Iowa
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Dear Charlie,
I’m glad you still love your wife, but I doubt the feeling is mutual. Let me give you some possible reasons your presence in the same bed with your wife, appears to nauseates her. It could be after 45 years, she doesn’t know the right words to say to convey that she can’t stand you, and she’s hoping you aren’t too dense to pick up on a glaring visual hint. Or, it could be she’s fantasizing about another man, and sleeping next to you disrupts her dreams of wishing you two never would’ve met. It could even be that because you want a night light on in the room, it angers her that you might be able to see the landmines or bear traps she wants to place on the floor when you take your trips to the bathroom that often wakes her up. But on the other hand, she could still really love you, and she wanted her own room for your safety. And she probably knows that it won’t take much for her to put a pillow over your face while placing all of her weight on it while you’re sleeping. She probably also knows that when you finally wake up, you’ll be standing in front of God in your pajamas as He determines your eternal destiny. And if He rejects you, you’ll be sleeping in a place that has lots of lights… emitted by fire. I hope this helps.
Blake