Dear Blake,
I am a 42-year-old mother of three who has been in a relationship with a man for almost six years. He is incarcerated. We started out as friends. Things were great until this year, when he reconnected with an old girlfriend.
I had a conversation with her over Facebook, and she wanted to invite me out for coffee one day. I ended up messaging her later on that night, and she told my boyfriend I had “made her uncomfortable.” She ended up blocking me on Facebook.
Abby, he’s now saying he’s in love with both of us! I’m not allowed to talk about her, and anything they talk about is “none of my business.” I do not get as many phone calls from him as I used to, and I think it’s because of her. I’m not sure what her plans are, but I get the feeling she’s trying to get me out of the picture. Please tell me what to do.
Signed Samantha,
From Baton Rouge, Louisiana
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Dear Samantha,
A love triangle can be a complicated, emotionally draining situation. But when you include an inmate in the mix, it’s more like a Lifetime movie or a Netflix miniseries. Anyway, here’s my advice. Give him an ultimatum, demanding that he chooses between you, his ex-girlfriend, and any feminine inmates at the prison he’s housed, that he may be currently involved with. Or both you and his ex can pool your resources, and pay a very violent inmate to deal with that two timer… with a shank. Is your boyfriend a big man that can take care of himself? If he’s not, he might look a lot different when he gets out, from the daily beatings and other unspeakable late night activities. And lastly, if he has done something so terrible that he’s on death row, you and his old girlfriend might actually need each other. Because when the fact that he is probably manipulating both of you sets in, at his execution, you two might need to hug each other, to prevent yourselves from falling down laughing. I hope this helps.
Blake